Take my picture
If it weren't for the camera around my neck, we never would have become friends.
I was wandering around Kopychyntsi, my husband's hometown in Ukraine, photographing the local pond, the ducks, the houses. The non-threatening subjects. It was 2001, my first year at Kodak, my second visit to Ukraine. I had just switched over to digital photography and was experimenting with my first digital camera, a Kodak DC4800, which I had purchased just before this trip.
Although I had met my husband's large extended family and photographed them, I hadn't worked up my courage to photograph strangers. Not yet. But as I chased some ducks on the street, an elderly woman called out to me.
"Take my picture," she requested, and posed proudly in front of a hovel. When I asked where she lived, she pointed to the lot behind her, so I misunderstood that this dilapidated structure was her home. It wasn't until a year later when I returned with a print for her that I realized that the house she lived in was behind this rundown building.
Taken with my first digital camera, the Kodak DC4800
I learned her name on that second visit. Teklia was not a native of Kopychyntsi. This might explain why she'd been so uncharacteristically bold in asking me to photograph her. Teklia had moved here to be near her married son, her only surviving child. But he had gotten a job abroad, as have many Ukrainians since the dissolution of the Soviet Union, and she was left quite alone in this town. She begged me to come again.
"If only you lived here, you could help me carry water from the well in the winter," she lamented. Her home has no running water, no toilet, no bathtub. She carried her water in buckets from the public well on the street, used an outhouse, and washed in a basin. My heart went out to her.
This time I photographed her in front of her house. I stopped by whenever I could.
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taken with my Kodak DC4800, still my only digital camera
It occurred to me that the pictures of Teklia over the years are a historic record not only of her life and our friendship, but of the digital cameras I've owned over the years. The first two years, I photographed her with my then top-of-the-line 3.1-megapixel DC4800.
I returned to Ukraine two years later. I brought Teklia prints from my previous visit; she fixed me a meal. Even if you drop by unannounced, most Ukrainians will host you with food and drink - sometimes a cup of tea and a sweet, other times a full meal. By now Teklia had gotten used to the camera that was perpetually around my neck. I was even able to capture a candid shot of her.
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Teklia making tea, 2004 |
Teklia with bread and tea, 2004 |
By now I had graduated to a 5-megapixel Minolta, a camera I became disillusioned with because of the washed-out colors of the images it captured and how quickly its batteries ran down.
My following trip to Ukraine in 2005 was short, so my visit to Teklia's house was brief. This time she complained of high blood pressure and deterioration of vision. She could no longer read. She didn't want me to leave. I began to wonder whether I'd see her again.
That summer I used a 5-megapixel Kodak DX7590. I loved the bright colors of the images, but missed the 28mm wide-angle capability of the DC4800 and the Minolta, which were useful for taking in more of the surroundings from the same vantage point, and inside a house, you often can't get any further back from your subject.
It was another two years before I returned to Ukraine. Teklia was one of the first people I visited. She wasn't outside, and her door was closed. I knocked. I heard some noises inside, then a voice. "Who is it?"
"Vera," I answered. "From America."
"Who?"
I repeated my answer.
After much shuffling and scraping, the door opened, and there she stood, thin, haggard, propped up with a cane. She was panting from the effort of walking to the door.
"Oh, Verochko," she crooned, using a diminutive of my given name. "I have been sick for a long time. What month is it?"
"August..."
"May God bless you that you have not forgotten me."
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| Teklia by the bed where she spends most of her time, 2007 both taken with my Kodak EasyShare P880 |
Teklia with her passport |
Teklia could barely walk. She was unsteady on her feet, keeping them far apart as she tottered over to a wooden chair near her bed. She sat down awkwardly with the aid of a second cane. Then she paused to catch her breath again.
My heart broke.
She could no longer cook. Or fetch water. Or go to the latrine outside. She was completely at the mercy of neighbors who brought her food and fetched her water and emptied the contents of the bucket in her room, which functioned as her toilet. This bucket was positioned under a chair with a hole cut in the seat. The odor of its contents hit my nostrils as soon as I stepped inside. Her house, once so clean, now smelled of deteriorating health and progressing frailty.
Despite her ill health, she didn't forget her manners and in typical Ukrainian hospitality, offered me a jam-filled pastry - which I had to fetch myself.
"I am so lonely, so lonely... Will you come again tomorrow?"
This past summer I used two Kodak cameras I'd purchased in the last year, the 8-megapixel P880, a "prosumer" camera with 24mm wide-angle lens, which is even wider than my previous cameras' 28mm capability, and the 7.1-megapixel V705 with a 23mm (!!) wide-angle lens.
As I backed up to take her picture, Teklia raised her voice in panic, "Don't touch the phone!"
I glanced around, then took a step away from the old-fashioned dial phone on her table.
"It's my lifeline," Teklia explained. "I would perish without it."
Before I left, I fetched her some water and emptied the contents of her pail.
I visited Teklia several more times this summer, sometimes bringing my husband, who mowed her lawn, and my children, who sang for her and helped with chores. She always asked what month it was. She explained that her memory was failing and even looked up her own birthday on her Ukrainian passport. She had turned 80 in the spring.
It was difficult to say good-bye, realizing that most likely, I will not see her on my next trip to Ukraine. But I am so thankful to have memories of Teklia captured over many years with many cameras.
Comments
Posted By: Steve (12/13/2007)
Comment: Your pics are heartfelt and genuine. I actually would like to use a few from your blog "A Dose of Reality" regarding the city dump of Matamoros, Mexico. Our church (Open Door Ministries) has made over 30 trips there in the past years and in fact a team is there as we speak. It is hard for Americans to realize how truly blessed we are were it not for pictures like these you've taken. Thank you and you can email copies of the Matamoros pics to ptb.asst@gmail.com.
Posted By: Nataliya (11/28/2007)
Comment: What a moving story, thank you for sharing it! I also wanted to thank you for your comments on my blog. It means so much to me to hear from home while fighting with the red tape in Ukraine. By the way, we've never met, but I saw your pictures next to your office wall when I was working at Kodak (part of WWIS) supporting TKM on Documentum project.
Posted By: Melonie (11/26/2007)
Comment: Wow this is such an amazing story Vera! I loved it. Thank you for sharing and beautiful pictures as well :)
Posted By: Nan Heath (11/20/2007)
Comment: Beautiful pictures of Teklia. How lovely that your camera brought you together and that you incorporated it into your blog. A little Vera history lesson! Keep it up! I am enjoying reading the blogs so much!
Posted By: Lawrence Nazarian (11/17/2007)
Comment: A deeply moving story, brought alive with the warm and sensitive photographs.
Posted By: Toshi (11/17/2007)
Comment: A beautiful story. Living in a farm community myself, I can picture how she lives with her neighbor's assistance. This story reminds of how important life is. Vera, you are great.
Posted By: Steve DiLullo (11/15/2007)
Comment: What a beautiful story captured through pictures - there might not be a better example of what this blog is all about. Thanks for sharing this with the world, Vera!
Posted By: Dawn (11/14/2007)
Comment: Vera, thank-you for your story. It has awakened purpose and meaning in my own life. You have many gifts; Thank-you for sharing them with us.
Posted By: netster (11/14/2007)
Comment: :( so touching and I feel so sad. it's make me thought about my dad, grand mom and uncle who had pass away. :~(
Posted By: Judy (11/13/2007)
Comment: Vera, thank you for sharing Teklia with us. The acts of kindness that you, your husband, and your daughters bestowed on this gracious woman remind us of what is truly important.
Posted By: Deanna (11/13/2007)
Comment: Thank you for your story of the power of relationships and connections one to another. We are so isolated here in the U.S., we've lost touch with how the rest of the world lives, as we did too less than a century ago. Thank you for the reminder. (I hope I haven't made any typos; there are tears in my eyes.)
Posted By: John Lukes (11/13/2007)
Comment: Teklia's courage in the face of many challenges is truly inspiring. And with people like you in the world, to not only be a friend to Teklia, but to bring her into our experience, I am reminded that we do not, in fact, all live and die alone -- as some would claim.
Posted By: Roman (11/13/2007)
Comment: Vera, another touching story, with wonderful photography as always. Thanks!
Posted By: Nelson (11/13/2007)
Comment: Touched again - thank you.
Posted By: Bob (11/13/2007)
Comment: Vera, Thank you for sharing your memories and photos and for being a wonderful connection for all of us to the joys and hardships you encounter in your journeys.
Posted By: Andy (11/13/2007)
Comment: Wow. There but for the grace of God... Your pictures and story of Teklia make me wonder what life was like for her decades ago. If she was born in '27 she would have been 18 in 1945... her historical perspective of the Great War is soon to be lost with so many others of that era. Your words and pictures can't help but strike a chord in the heart.
Posted By: Deniz (11/13/2007)
Comment: Vera: Thank you for sharing your talent for story writing, taking pictures and touching people's hearts.
Posted By: John Fleckenstein (11/13/2007)
Comment: When I look at your pictures and story it makes me think that we are so lucky to have good health care. But, even in this country there are people who do not have health care and often die alone. It's sad that with all of our technology we seem to use our resources fighting in other lands. Just take a look at New Orleans....they are still fighting to try and rebuild.
Posted By: Alexsandra (11/13/2007)
Comment: Once again, Vera, your words and images touch my heart. Another beautiful post.












